Boyfriend cheated on her and she took a decision. This is a perfect example of how destiny works if we let it and are willing to take our own decisions!
Back in December 2015 close friend of mine (let’s call her Kate) went through painful experience. Her boyfriend (let’s call him Sam) of 4 years cheated on her with a girl from his neighbourhood. As Kate came to me, she was devastated. “How could he do something like that to us? And why?! We were together for four years and never once I neglected him. Never once! Because I love him! Did I just waste four years of my life for him? Was it all for nothing?!” she kept asking me in tears. Her voice was shaking.
I remember, that I didn’t say much to her. I sat there and listen to her. Once she calmed down, I shuffled my cards and started with a reading. Cards were showing another woman in play, his emotions towards her and Kate, his indecisiveness, the other woman’s possessiveness and so on. I did almost an hour reading for her, before we did “the final reading”
“Please, tell me… What should I do?” she asked (almost begging) me.
I shuffled cards twice. First time for her future with Sam and second time for her future without Sam.
Spread for Sam
CHILD – HEART – LILY – MICE – WHIP
Spread for her love life if she breaks up with Sam
CHILD – RIDER – FISH – HEART – MOON
“I can’t tell you that, Kate. It is you, who will have to make a decision and live with it,” I replied. I could only tell her, what cards were showing me. “I can only tell you only facts that cards are pointing out and these are:
- Sam still loves you and will always choose you over any other woman.
- Kyla (the other woman) tricked him into sex that night, but he is really sorry.
- If you will stay with Sam, he will be faithful to you, but it is on you if you are willing to forgive him and live with him despite he had sex with Kyla.
- In case that can’t live with the idea that he once cheated on you, you should leave him.
- If you leave him, you will have very hard emotional healing time for around two or three months. But in next ten months you should meet somebody new and begin relationship with him. If this shall happen, very kind and loving relationship with him is indicated.
“Now you know. But neither I nor anyone else can tell you what to do. It is your life, your decisions,” I said at the end.
Me and Kate are very good friends, but that day she just couldn’t understand the words I was saying to her. She left my apartment in tears that Wednesday and was sure that I wouldn’t want to help her to make decision. For about a week we didn’t speak. She didn’t call me and I didn’t want to impose on her.
About week after, it was Friday, she finally called me. “I did it… *silence for 3 seconds* I left Sam,” she said. “The idea of him being with another woman would have haunted me for the rest of my life. I lost trust in him. I could never see him again the way I did before, you know…”
“You did right,” I said in a calm way. Our conversation about Sam ended there and after that she really tried to forget him and had some really hard time doing this.
We talked a lot in past months, mostly about meaning of living, how important is to cherish every day and people in our lives. After the accident she visited me regularly in a hospital and rehab centre and made my recovering days much easier.
BUT this year early in September she called me one night and sounded very excited. “You won’t believe it, what happened today!” she said over phone. That day she met someone and it was felt like an instant connection. “Do you remember, what you said me last year before I broke up with Sam?!!” I remembered – cards were showing a new man entering her life in next ten months and it finally happened! In past few days she went out three times with this guy and it sure seems like there is an amazing relationship that is about to happen. I already shuffled cards for her. 😉
So here it is, my dearest, the point of the whole thing.
Back in December Kate had no idea how to continue her life after Sam cheated on her. She wanted me to tell her what to do. Wrong!
When you are in doubts, you can ASK FOR HELP OR GUIDANCE. But you should NEVER ask for someone to tell you what to do. It is your life, your decisions and you are the one who has to decide which way your life will go!
If you are in similar doubts as Kate was, then remember – ask people for guidance, ask for help, but never ask them to tell you what to do. If you are unable to make a decision just about right now, take time and go within yourself. Think about what you really want, what you can handle, what an absolute “NO GO” is for you and what things that you are ready to negotiate about are.
Remember, the answers to all your questions are always already within yourself, but it takes time and some effort before they are revealed to you!
Are you in doubts? Do you need clarification? Don’t be afraid to ask!